A New Years' Day to remember...

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, 
but by the moments that take our breath away” 
(Maya Angelou)

My name is Val and I’m a mum, wife, health professional, novice cake decorator, want-to-be party stylist and the list goes on….. Sometimes I think we are so busy in our lives that we forget that there are very special moments happening around us right now. So my New Year’s resolution is just that, to stop…. and cherish those special moments.

Over Christmas, I heard from two friends, one was pregnant and the other miscarried. I was thrilled for my pregnant friend but my heart ached so much for my other friend and although I will never know the depth of her heart ache, I know what it feels like to want a child so much.

New Years Day this year was a very special day for me; it was my second son’s baptism. Blue eyes is 7 months today and very much a wanted child. Why is it that the success of pregnancy is always celebrated but the challenges of trying to conceive is hidden … almost the black sheep of the family that not one wants to talk about.

My first child, brown eyes (now 3 years old) was conceived relatively quickly (after a bit of help from western medicine) but the Engineer and I tried for many long months (using both western and eastern medicine) before blue eyes was conceived. During that time I went through a rollercoaster of emotions and had many conversations with people who opened up to me about their journey to conceive. Tell me readers, why do we hide so much when as women we need to band together and support each other through one of life’s hardest challenges for a woman? Is it shame? Failure?

Blue eye’s son’s baptism was a day of celebration - to thank God for blessing us with another child and to pray for guidance to raise him as best as we can. The cake I made was specifically picked because I liked the bird topper image I found online (my version is no way as beautiful as Rouvelee’s Creations). The mother and baby bird are nestling and that is exactly how my baby son slept on us when he was born… the anti co-sleeper in me had a bit of learning to do.

Since it was summer, we decided to have a pool party, BBQ and ice cream parlour for dessert (thank you Amy Moss from www.eatdrinkchic.com for your ideas and printables). I had 11 well behaved kids for the whole party desperately waiting for dessert so they could tuck into home made ice cream, cake pops (thank you Angie Dudley from www.bakerella.com for all your inspiration) and of course…. Lollies!

At the end of the day, it was so lovely to relax by the pool with my glass of French bubbles and cherish the moment…. My dearest and closest around me, my ever patient and kind Engineer and yes…. My beautiful children that I am so blessed to have.

Readers what did you cherish on New Years Day?


Allison said...

What a wonderful idea for a New Years resolution! The party table looks lovely and the cake looks amazing! Hope 'Blue eyes' enjoyed himself :-)

Anonymous said...

Beautiful story....thank you for sharing xxx

Ali said...

Beautifully written Val. I love your honesty and openess about relatively taboo subjects. After 2 years of 'trying' we miscarried our first baby at 11 weeks, and having not told anyone that we were pregnant we grieved the loss alone. After another year and a half, Praise God that we were blessed with Miss 3, 2 years later, Miss 1. Reading your blog is inspiring! You're so right that we need to take time to appreciate the wonderful relationships we have with our friends, (and draw upon the invaluable support and comfort these relationships can offer), and also to 'stop and smell the roses'. Thanks so much for this lovely glimpse into a gorgeous party, and your great resolution. I wish you all the best in 2012, and look forward to reading more...